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MARRIED FELON

My Mitigation Strategy for Sentencing, Marriage & the Prison Experience

I'm a felon, happily married and I face incarceration.  This is the unvarnished journey of a man desperate to salvage his life, save his marriage and find a measure of sanity as he grinds a path forward through the criminal justice system.

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Have A Plan - A Message Of Hope From The New Guy

(This is a letter of Mike’s experience at one of the transfer centers where each person has 3 hours outside of their cell each day. It...

Dear Me

You will not like what I’m going to tell you, but you should know these things and understand the man you’ll become. You will make the...

Making Progress

A moment of humor - You might be in prison if you enjoy eating food labeled, “Not fit for human consumption.” On a more serious note:...

5 Things To Focus On -Part 2

When I self-surrendered at the camp, I began a regiment of walking the very next day. I didn’t waste time starting slow either. I dove...

5 Things To Focus On -Part 1

Five things that primarily occupy my focus while spending time at the Florence Camp: spiritual growth, marital happiness, improved...

Hurry Up And Wait

The Florence Camp has unceremoniously canceled the RDAP program completely, and I’m supposed to be transferred in the coming days to a...

Blessed Despite It

Most days I am positive, but sometimes I fail horribly ... that’s on me, not you. I hate it when I’m not strong enough to hold it...

RDAP Near You

My RDAP (residential drug abuse program ... it’s for alcoholics too) class was supposed to begin today, but the program has been canceled...

The Elephant And Baseball Bat

To say that I’ll always be positive when communicating with my wife is very Pollyanna. It’s a nice goal that is meant more of a reminder...

Where Oh, Where Is RDAP?

The RDAP Director interviewed me to evaluate my alcohol addiction last week and diagnosed me with a severe alcohol addiction. I am...

RDAP Entrance Exam

There is a program offered at the Prison Camp called RDAP. It is a beneficial program for alcoholics and drug users alike and is designed...

Pickling A Liver

I’ve been attending AA meetings at the Federal Prison Camp (FPC) for five weeks. I started AA the same week I surrendered, and it’s been...

AA In Prison Anyone?

I’ve been attending AA meetings every Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday, and I found a sponsor with a similar background and circumstances. ...

Learning Patience

I’ve been incarcerated for 30 days, and am getting the hang of things at the Federal Prison Camp (FPC). It’s very similar to a college...

What To Do While in Prison

The mystery and terror of serving a prison term are wearing off finally. Truthfully, the federal prison camp is very similar to a...

How to Define the Successful Prison Journey

I’ve only been at the Federal Prison Camp for 3 weeks, but I’m formulating a plan of action to accomplish my goal of creating a positive...

How Do I Define Success in Prison?

I’ve been in the Federal Prison Camp (FPC) in Florence, Colorado for two weeks. The rules are counter-intuitive but simple enough to...

Just Do It!

The countdown narrows: I am two days away from self-surrender - It's getting real! Here are the sobering statistics that occupy my mind....

Grace in Motion

It’s never an easy task preparing your family for the tragedy of a prison stretch. My family has been gracious, forgiving, supportive,...

Best Possible Outcome

What is the best possible outcome from the prison experience? I do not possess the practical firsthand knowledge about surviving a...

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MISSION STATEMENT

MarriedFelon.com will share the journey of a man grinding his way through the criminal justice system, and his effort to save his marriage from the deleterious reach of the criminal justice system.  I have been happily married to the same woman for twenty-nine years.  I have been faithful, devoted, I remain deeply in love, and I recently became a convicted felon.  I am confident I can survive this ordeal, but I will not surrender my marriage of twenty-nine years to the pernicious intrusion I have experienced with the criminal justice system. 

It may be unpopular to champion the traditional relationship between the sexes, and the longstanding institution of the ‘traditional marriage,’ but ask yourself one question, “Has the marriage between a man and woman, in all its forms and traditions, survived the test of time?”  Across cultures, the matrimonial bond between the sexes has survived all manner of social upheaval, persecution, war and regime change, plague, and religious turmoil.  Can a healthy marriage survive the United States criminal justice system?

    

The United States incarcerates more people than any other nation, and accounts for nearly twenty-five percent (25%) of prisoners across the globe but only five percent (5%) of the world population.   In total over 2.3 million people are in prison, and another 4.5 million on probation or parole.  Over the past forty (40) years, the number of people behind bars in America has increased by 500%.  It has given rise to the Prison Industrial Complex.

The American taxpayer spends $35 billion every year on its prison system, including private prisons, and the cost to imprison 2.3 million people is NOT considered a burden on the taxpayer by those who profit from incarceration, but rather a lucrative market.  Between 1990 and 2005, America built 544 new correctional facilities, and between 1980 to 1994, private prisons saw a rise in profits from $392 million to $1.31 billion.  Many in positions of authority have argued it is tantamount to modernized state-sponsored slave labor, and their acknowledgment is a good indication that reform of the criminal justice system is possible*.

     

The Defense of Marriage Act defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman, but was ruled unconstitutional by the United State Supreme Court.  The deck is stacked against traditional marriage. 

Is my financial future and fidelity of my marriage in peril?  Is the criminal justice system so ruinous I will not be able to survive the predatory financial interests of the Prison Industrial Complex and the anti-marriage sentiment of the Judiciary, and will I be able to build a community of married felons that can provide counsel, guidance and fellowship in my journey through the criminal justice system?  I will chronicle my experience.


I hope you find value in the experience and struggles I share at MarriedFelon.com

     *interrogatingjustice.org

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Michael Lain, 48588-509
FCI Florence
Federal Correctional Institution
Satellite Camp
PO Box 5000
Florence,CO 81226

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