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MARRIED FELON

My Mitigation Strategy for Sentencing, Marriage & the Prison Experience

I'm a felon, happily married and I face incarceration.  This is the unvarnished journey of a man desperate to salvage his life, save his marriage and find a measure of sanity as he grinds a path forward through the criminal justice system.

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Keeping Your Marriage Alive While In Prison

An inmate asked me how he could keep his marriage alive. I told him to keep his fly zipped and always put his wife first. He couldn’t...

The Path To Change

Our society and the ‘American Dream’ are built around a strong work ethic. The harder we work, the greater the chance of success. If left...

You Are Valued

I believe it is natural to develop a sense of self-perception by noticing how the important people in our lives perceive us. Everyone...

The Road Traveled

There will be times when we grow weary and want to throw in the towel. We experience pain, fear, and a host of other negative emotions....

The Worst Things Can Be A Gift

How do I measure personal growth and find value from this experience? I’m an upbeat guy, and the BOP guards are trained professionals at...

Pride Is A Temptress

I asked myself some hard questions adapted from After reading ‘The Servant Leader,’ by Blanchard and Hodges, I asked myself some tough...

Preserving My Marriage

I have been happily married for three decades. These have been the best years of my life, and the prison experience has not diminished...

Signs Are Everywhere

In order to learn how to meditate, I have been reading the book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a...

The Fool And Buttercup

An interesting quote from Mojave Crossing by Louis L’Amour, "It never does any good for a man to cuss himself, unless maybe it helps to...

Musings from Louis L’Amour- What We Can Learn

I spend most of my free time reading and writing letters. It gives me time to ponder and figure out what positive message can I learn...

More Christmas Gratefully List

It's a bittersweet moment writing a blog about Christmas while on hiatus in BOP custody. This is the first time in thirty years I've...

Christmas Gratefully

Being in prison on Christmas separated from family and those I love is the reality in my life during this festive season. My displeasure...

Suffering And Joy: Where To Find Inspiration

I came across an interesting perspective on suffering. Suffering is a joy. I had to stop upon hearing this concept. When a person...

Prayer Warrior

It’s time for a serious post and attitude check about the prison experience. I began this journey in a state of shell shock. The how...

Greatfully List

I have been practicing the application of my 'Greatfully List'. How many things can I find to be grateful for in 15 minutes or less? It's...

Gratitude Beats Bitterness

This is my first attempt at conquering bitterness by composing a gratitude list. How can a guy be thankful while behind bars? I had to...

Poison Pill

I'm wondering how to overcome the poison pill of bitterness. I've been reading Miracles by one of my favorite authors, C.S. Lewis, and...

Reflections On Metrics

My journey began by collaborating with my wife on our future vision and having five different goals to master this experience. Our...

A Mission Almost Accomplished

One of the important goals, or mission statements, that I have while in BOP custody is sound health. This has been one of the easier...

Travel In Style

As I reported earlier, the RDAP program at the Florence, CO camp is closed. I was supposed to begin the program on June first. Naturally,...

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MISSION STATEMENT

MarriedFelon.com will share the journey of a man grinding his way through the criminal justice system, and his effort to save his marriage from the deleterious reach of the criminal justice system.  I have been happily married to the same woman for twenty-nine years.  I have been faithful, devoted, I remain deeply in love, and I recently became a convicted felon.  I am confident I can survive this ordeal, but I will not surrender my marriage of twenty-nine years to the pernicious intrusion I have experienced with the criminal justice system. 

It may be unpopular to champion the traditional relationship between the sexes, and the longstanding institution of the ‘traditional marriage,’ but ask yourself one question, “Has the marriage between a man and woman, in all its forms and traditions, survived the test of time?”  Across cultures, the matrimonial bond between the sexes has survived all manner of social upheaval, persecution, war and regime change, plague, and religious turmoil.  Can a healthy marriage survive the United States criminal justice system?

    

The United States incarcerates more people than any other nation, and accounts for nearly twenty-five percent (25%) of prisoners across the globe but only five percent (5%) of the world population.   In total over 2.3 million people are in prison, and another 4.5 million on probation or parole.  Over the past forty (40) years, the number of people behind bars in America has increased by 500%.  It has given rise to the Prison Industrial Complex.

The American taxpayer spends $35 billion every year on its prison system, including private prisons, and the cost to imprison 2.3 million people is NOT considered a burden on the taxpayer by those who profit from incarceration, but rather a lucrative market.  Between 1990 and 2005, America built 544 new correctional facilities, and between 1980 to 1994, private prisons saw a rise in profits from $392 million to $1.31 billion.  Many in positions of authority have argued it is tantamount to modernized state-sponsored slave labor, and their acknowledgment is a good indication that reform of the criminal justice system is possible*.

     

The Defense of Marriage Act defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman, but was ruled unconstitutional by the United State Supreme Court.  The deck is stacked against traditional marriage. 

Is my financial future and fidelity of my marriage in peril?  Is the criminal justice system so ruinous I will not be able to survive the predatory financial interests of the Prison Industrial Complex and the anti-marriage sentiment of the Judiciary, and will I be able to build a community of married felons that can provide counsel, guidance and fellowship in my journey through the criminal justice system?  I will chronicle my experience.


I hope you find value in the experience and struggles I share at MarriedFelon.com

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Michael Lain, 48588-509
FCI Florence
Federal Correctional Institution
Satellite Camp
PO Box 5000
Florence,CO 81226

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